Day 17: Does my level of involvement in my local church demonstrate that I love and am commited to God's family?

I've been going through the "Purpose Driven Life" and for my own development I've been journalling based on the "Questions to Consider" at the end of each chapter. The book is written as a devotional which is why its based on days. Day 17 had to do with why one should be a member of a church and I was convicted on how the church is the bride of Christ and to criticize it is criticizing God's bride. Here's the journal entry:
Obviously I am commited. But do I always love them? I have been very critical of the church as a whole and consistently spoken of the bad elements there of for quite a while now. I've been a cinic since Bible school and been able to recognise the issues in the church to such an extent that I wonder if I've focused on the negative too much. In my training there has been many comments on the lack of God's presence, discipleship, and community involvement as well as other issues. The only thing is I have not neccessarily seen this in my own life. I actually come from a really good church, one that has these things. Is it perfect, no, but it has fulfilled many of those things that those that complain about the church complain about.
To change slightly I seem to make it a point to defend the thousands of Catholic priests that haven't molested children because there is actually a relatively small amount of Catholic priests that have done it. But I seem to be willing to disclude the numerous Christians that are honestly God following but for whatever reason seem to be failing to make a difference. Let's face it there's a lot of people out there that have given Christianity a bad name, but realistically those are not the real church. The real church follows God and not regulations. Are there rules, yes. But those of the real church try to please God not the administration that calls themselves the church. Any rules we put in place are for growth towards God. There is something to say about removing ourselves from the appearance of evil, but face it Jesus himself spent time with those that were the supposed heathens and was declared a heathen because of it from those that looked in on him. Does that mean that we should do things as men like be alone with women, by no means, that's just foolish. But does avoiding the appearance of evil mean exlcuding ourselves from the world, by no means. It is the sick that need a doctor not the well. The sinner will rarely if ever enter the church and if they did they would care less for our worship and sermons than anything else. Unless were going to entertain them the only part of the service that should be tailered to non-Christians is keeping the religious language out or explaining the meaning in some other way that is understandable to them, anything else is watering down the truth.
I seem to have gone on a tangent but my point is I beleive I have been to harsh on the church as a whole. The Americanization and religiosity is a definite problem but to constantly belittle the good parts due to the bad would be flawed and honestly unloving.
I'm sorry God for when I've degraded your church and not uplifted the good parts. It is your bride and to deride her is being critical and is synonomous to deriding God Himself as insulting the bride will surely hurt the groom. Help me and others to recognise the true church and lift it up, not tear it down.